So what is coaching anyway?

An actual definition does not usually start with what it is not, but life coaching is not consulting, therapy, counseling, or getting told what to do.

Life and business coaching is more than a profession because it entails a journey with each client.
Coaching is supportive, motivating, and intuitive.
I believe it’s a calling.

Coaching is about asking the hard questions to help you arrive at your own answers. Coaching is about facilitating change and interacting with limiting beliefs that you may have. Coaching is about challenging yourself and getting motivated, while receiving accountability in a loving way. Coaching is about inspiration and aspirations, as well as helping you uncover, discover, discard what is holding you back.

I want to empower you to delve into your inner wisdom by providing you the emotional means to get there. Sometimes one tweak in perception, one “Aha!” moment is all it takes.

Do you want to leap to the next level in your personal or business life? Do you want to be more effective in every task you take on? Do you want to achieve more with less effort?

There is no risk worth taking more than one that is taken for a happier you. Coaching is better experienced rather than explained. Feel free to call me to schedule a complimentary session at (832)207-2002.

Be it based around something as personal as relationships, parenting, or your love life – I can help you find what you seek. Or be it based around business needs because focus and priorities are obstacles for you, feel free to call.

 

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Insights into dark and light (Based on An Old Cherokee Tale of Two Wolves…)

One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ‘Which wolf wins?’
The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed.’

Feed the wolf that you need to thrive, and your body, mind, and spirit will thank you if it is the wolf that is free of darkness.

I’ve had my share of time where I felt nothing but the dark emotions that swirled around while living in the past. The past has no business in the present, and will only serve to worry you while ruining your future (if it is all about reflecting on your mistakes). So I plugged along doing the best I could with what I had to work with, which wasn’t much. I was truly lost and out of control. I kept feeding the wrong wolf with all sorts of reasons to keep me in guilt, shame, remorse, and bewilderment.

I was done for, and spiritually dead inside. I tried to stay positive and only ended up rocking myself back and forth while trying to clam down, sitting in the fetal position, and attempting to listen to some uplifting music. It didn’t help. It was 5 am and I might as well get up…

Well, I finally did. I woke up to the idea of my powerlessness over my life and the unmanageability of trying to do it all by myself. Thank God for that day! Because little did I know that was the first step in the right direction that would lead me down a path beyond my wildest dreams! For me, it finally started when I stopped trying to live by own terms.

I was done feeding the wrong wolf.

Today I have been recovered and am still recovering by seeking a spiritual path. My daughter is about to be 3 years old, and she doesn’t know that same person that used to be called by my same name. I have now re-engineered my life. Not only have I changed, but I have created subtle shifts along the way that I can never again go back to the places I used to live. I can never again feel comfortable with the habits of the older version of who I was once, that lost little girl named Patricia.

If you feel lost and alone today, just know there is a way out… but it is only by walking through some of the pain. I tried to anesthetize the pain of being me all along while trying to run from myself. I didn’t know it was self-loathing and disgust that I had to face. It was only when I admitted my utter brokenness and defeat that I could surrender to live. I waved he white flag because it was my last hope. I wanted to live. I knew here was more to life than what I had experienced. I surrendered not only to live, but to thrive. Today life is full of light, wonder, and curiosity. I get to see it when my little girl is exploring places like the backyard and pretending to cook on her play kitchen. I resonate with that because I too am learning to do things for the first time in so many ways. I can relate to my precious little one, I love her dearly… and today I can honestly say I love myself too.

God gives grace and favor freely.

Sometimes when we have fallen away from God we need to seek him to get back to him. We need to ask for him to make our crooked paths straight, and remove obstacles on the path that either we have created or the evil one has put in place. We need to show him we are seeking him, and he promises we shall find. Find what? We shall find him. We shall find grace. His favor and his grace are waiting for us, and come when we even feel we don’t deserve it. God always thinks you are deserving and gives you grace and favor whether or not you can see it or feel it. Asking for his grace to get back to him will make a path straight to him. God is with you no matter how flimsy your faith. He has lifted the veil that Jesus tore and he has promised that you will find when you seek him with all your heart. The thing is, you cannot see his grace with sin stained eyes…. that will cause you to complain and bemoan your state of affairs. It will cause you to see nothing but your problems. Pray for clarity and wisdom beyond your ability, and claim the richness in Christ that you’ve been promised. You can behold his grace without doing any of this however, because of God’s love you can see his sacred, supernatural provision. Sometimes we need to see it to believe it. Perhaps not with our natural eyes, but in our spirit – where Jesus dwells. You have been ransomed for his purposes. His purposes do not promise a life without pain, fear, or problems. His favor does provide the courage to meet every obstacle, Because he has overcome the world, you can rest assure that he made you to be victorious. Rest in that. Rest in him. Rest with him. Overcome the busyness by communing with the spirit on a daily basis and the promises of God will meet you wherever you are. God is love, and he wants you to feel loved. Man has fallen away and man has sinned, so your dependence cannot lie with them. Your dependence and whole being needs to be in God alone. Man will fail you, but God will redeem you and fill you with grace.

The thing is, we are the ones who have fallen away from God. God never leaves us nor forsakes us, and he loves us unconditionally.

Photography by Sabreena downloaded 060215

Photography by Sabreena downloaded 060215